What video card are you running, getting the visibility to the best possible setting is super important. Lose sight, lose the fight. Personally, I'd start with 2D and we can look at VR after as the game is trying to sort out some issues around VR Zoom. VR looks amazing, gunnery is much better and plane identification is a bit of a nightmare right now since 3DMigoto got nerfed.
You'll need to burn aircraft ident into your brain, check that link out.